“Don’t focus on the problem. Focus on the solution.” -Roz Moskovits
How many days months and years go by with you tolerating a problem instead of seeking or hunting down a solution? Like a dripping faucet. The dripping irritates you, but you keep putting off calling a plumber or learning how to fix it yourself. You know logically you’ll be happier when it’s fixed and the dripping is over, but you keep telling yourself you don’t have time, you’re not sure where to start, you don’t know who to call, or whatever the reason is. It’s not so disruptive to your life that it spurs you to make a change immediately, so you keep tolerating it. But the faucet keeps dripping, and it keeps bothering you.
We all do this for many different situations, and that is why having a great coach is one of your best allies.
For example, during my western dressage riding lessons, it was obvious that I was fidgeting with my stirrups. My coach, Roz, asked about it and reminded me a solution was the answer. Western riders greatly benefit from “turning” their stirrups. When a rider turns their stirrups, they train the stirrup fenders and the leathers beneath them to twist outwards, which turns the stirrups outward from the sides of the horse at a right angle. Turned stirrups offer a rider easier and safer mounting and dismounting, less strain in their legs while riding, and far greater ease in regaining a lost stirrup while riding.
The solution was wonderful. Less distraction, more focus and ease during the ride. Why hadn’t I done it sooner?
What is the problem or irritant you’re tolerating right now? What are the possible solutions? What is stopping you from seeking out these solutions? Are you too focused on the issue and not focused enough on finding the answer?