You Already Know Who You Are

(Guest post submitted by J. Maier)

Many people my age go abroad to get to know themselves and to find out who they are. When my gap-year started, I was pretty sure I knew exactly who I was and what I wanted. Another thing I knew was that I definitely didn’t want to be like that.

I thought I am self-confident but shy, I need a plan for everything, couldn’t let things go their own way and, like my friends always say, I’m a stone without feelings.

Well… after already four months of being away from home, I can be still a stone and I do still love having plans for everything, but I learned two big things.

The first one is that my plans might not work out, but there is a reason why and my situation will be a lot better if I don’t stick to them just because they were my plans. I throw them away and guess what – I got some great opportunities. In my case, I was supposed to be in Canada for almost a whole year with a two month break in Jamaica and Cuba. Now I will be in Canada three times, in Jamaica and Cuba for two months, in South Africa for a couple months, and a few days at home in Germany. I experienced so many different things I wasn’t expecting at all. Stuff like milking cows, flying with a cat, being a bridesmaid, travelling so much, getting to know such great people, having a massage and so on.

The massage brings me to another point. I think travelling helps people to be on their own, but looking for and maybe even after myself means other things for me as well. For example having a massage; 90 minutes time for yourself, not doing or thinking about anything. It gives you a break in your daily routine and makes you enjoying life a bit more and being aware of your own body.

What I’m actually trying to say is, in the beginning I said I am self-confident but shy. Well, now I know I am definitely self-confident but I know as well that I’m definitely not shy. Angela’s coaching gave me another view on myself. I discovered what I thought is shyness is actually just the way I am. I will talk only when I have to say something and this might be pretty rare. So I can sit in a group of people without saying anything for hours but that doesn’t mean I’m not brave enough to say something. I just don’t want to say anything.

If there exist four different types of people, I am Type 4. I’m not talking a lot, my movements are straight and I have strict ways of seeing the world. For people who don’t know me I seem to be arrogant and close-mouthed and not really welcoming, but that’s just how I look like. Not what I am. But accepted this now and guess what… I learned to accept who I am.

So don’t go travelling to find out who you are. You know it already, you just have to accept it and learn more about yourself. Angela gave me great advice how to listen to myself and how to be aware of my personality. And the most important thing is to feel good with it and being proud of it. Of course, it doesn’t mean that you should stop working on yourself. For example, as I said, I’m going backpacking in Jamaica and Cuba and I haven’t planned anything but the first hostel and the flights. That a huge step for me because it drives me crazy not to know what’s going on, but I’m sure I will grow with it and maybe I am a bit more relaxed later on. But even if this is not the case, I did something which is not my nature, and that’s already a big step forward. So feel free to go out of your comfort zone and grow. Because you can’t say, “I’m not able to do that,” unless you tried it.

So stop looking somewhere in the big world for something which is already in and around you.

 

What If?

Life CoachElizabeth Gilbert, author of Eat, Pray, Love, believes that ideas are magical, energetic life forms that float and swirl around in the atmosphere, waiting to be claimed by a human being below.

One of these energetic life forms flits past you as you go about your day, and you get the spark of a creative thought in your mind; an idea. It could be about anything: a phrase for a potential poem, a landscaping plan for your front yard, a solution to a problem at work, or even a more efficient way to load the dishwasher.

You stop and marvel at your idea for half a second, and then resume what you were doing. And most of the time? That idea is gone forever. “And so what?” you might think. “It must not have been that important.”

But what if it could have been?

What if Margaret Atwood had felt the flutter of an idea about a dystopian novel, and just shook it off and focused on folding her laundry instead? Goodbye, A Handmaid’s Tale. What if Valerie Thomas had let her creative thoughts slip away into nothingness? Maybe we wouldn’t know about the dangers to the ozone layer.

No, not every idea has the potential to create a significant impact on the world of literature or science. But there are plenty of ideas that float around you that could significantly impact your life. The problem is that you need to catch them before they blow away and are out of reach.

Whether you believe ideas are independent entities drifting above you, or created internally by your mind and spirit, know that they are fleeting. Try keeping a notebook with you, or use a notes app on your phone, and see what happens when you jot down your random ideas for a few days. You won’t want to see all of your ideas through—and that’s perfectly fine. But take a look at the list you accumulate and take a look at all the potential and creativity you’ve created just by capturing your thoughts and ideas. Then maybe pick one or two to investigate further.

 

Stop Worrying About Money!

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Worrying about money doesn’t ever help. Worry will not propel you to take action, it doesn’t solve your problems, and it definitely doesn’t help you to attract or manifest more money. Worrying is, simply, the worst thing you can do when you’re broke.
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You may have heard the phrase, “The love of money is the root of all evil.” How we feel about money is really important, especially if we are trying to get more.
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Can you imagine having a relationship with a person the way that you have a relationship with money? You ignore it most of the time, you don’t like to talk about it, and anytime you directly address money, it’s only to complain or to worry about it. That is not a healthy relationship, and it will make money stay away from you.
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A few statements you should use to better describe your current relationship with money:

  • There is more than enough.
  • I am worthy of first-class everything.
  • The more I spend, the more I receive.
  • The more I give, the more I receive.
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When you feel that money is good, and you are good, and you are continually grateful for the money that comes into your life (and grateful for the money that goes out of your life, too!), this allows you to do the things that make money come to you. Most people reach an invisible barrier to having too much money in their lives, and that is what is keeping them from manifesting money. Nobody else is keeping you from making more; it’s only us, and our beliefs, that are limiting us.
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The two things you can do to overcome those limiting beliefs are to feel appreciation for money, and to act. Taking action is the key ingredient that most people miss when they are trying to work with the Law of Attraction – they do it all in their head, instead of manifesting in the real world.
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What are some actions you can do?
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Need money right now?

  • Sell something—items you don’t really need, something you create, or have a garage sale.
  • Freelance—try services such as Odesk.com, elance.com, or fiverr.com.
  • Ask for a raise or a promotion. Come to that meeting prepared on how to discuss your value.
  • Get a part-time job.
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Have some time to earn money?

  • Go back to school or earn a certificate in something that will bring you happiness and more marketability.
  • Consult a financial advisor on investments.
  • Follow your entrepreneurial spirit and start your own business.
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Enjoy your love affair with Money!
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Angela
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