Interior Design

Interior Design

Have you ever renovated or remodeled your home on your own? Or dreamed of doing so? If you’re like me, you’ve thought of a million ideas, from new kitchen countertops to new wall color to new flooring. Maybe you even add a few new throw pillows or artwork.

These actions brighten your home, or make it cozier, or make it feel fresher and different. And these are things you can absolutely do on your own and it feels amazing!

But (and if you’ve done home improvement projects, you’ll be nodding your head), it also comes with feelings of…

• Where do I even start?
• What are all of my options?
• Are these decisions wise?
• Will this turn out the way I hope it will?

I recently renovated and moved to a new house, and let me tell you—I was struck by how stuck I felt. I had all these feelings I listed above. And then I hired an interior designer.

I never would have thought about removing walls. Would I have thought about the small details, like outlet covers or heating grates? Would rearranging the kitchen be more conducive to the way I cook? Do I need extra storage for certain things? It wasn’t until I was asked questions about what I wanted to experience visually and physically that my vision became clear and I started to know precisely what my home should look like.

Interior designers are experts. They’ve studied their craft. They have experience. They know how to guide people. They know the options available. Their job is to see that you are a satisfied customer.

Life coaches can help you in the same way.

Just as you could do home improvements on your own, you can do life improvements on your own. You can change your diet. You can start saving money. You can ask for a raise. These things can absolutely be positive steps in your life.

But imagine you have an expert to help you, such as a life coach. An expert in their field. Someone who has studied their craft. Someone who guides people and can show you the options available. Someone to ask you what you want to experience and help you clarify your vision and design your plan. Just like creating a new structure, life coaches can help you to think about new ways of being; to help your brain begin working in new ways. And you’ll have someone to stand by you and help you get it done.

If you want to make changes, such as new paint or a new throw pillow, you definitely should! It feels good and it’s easy to do.

But if you want to transform your home, you should consider consulting the experts.

Diffuse Awareness vs. Single-Focus

As a life coach, I continue to learn and grow. One of the top needle-movers for me was Alison Armstrong and her understanding of men and women. Here is one point that will help you elevate yourself and those around you.

Men and women need to understand each other. Our differences are valuable. “We really were meant to shore up each other’s weaknesses,” says communication expert Alison Armstrong. One of the main differences Armstrong discusses is diffuse awareness verses single-focused awareness.

It is women’s diffuse awareness that causes the multitasking women are famous for. We watch TV and knit a sweater, we drive and plan our day, or we’re on the phone while checking email. Diffuse awareness even affects our vision. Women have “scan vision,” which enables us to enter a room and scan for an item. Imagine how useful this was to our ancestors as they scanned a meadow for edible food.

Our male ancestors navigated the world differently. Instead of scan vision, they employed hunting strategies, which included being single-focused. Men (hunters) had to focus on one thing to catch their pretty. Their vision allowed them to cast a spear with remarkable accuracy, but their strengths weren’t in finding a needle in a haystack.

Men might screen out everything irrelevant to the task at hand—even their partner. When this happens, try to remember men are wired to focus on one task at a time. Likewise, if you are multitasking when communicating with your partner, he may feel you aren’t paying attention to him or that you’re choosing a task over him