Over the past year I had the privilege of discussing Man Information with men. The secret survey of men provided information from 2000 men. And another seminar I was fortunate to attend was called “Men are Like Dogs, and You are a Bad Owner.” Let me tell you—it was interesting! No rocks were left unturned.
Did you know that women make the mistake of communicating with men like they are hairy women? Men and women tend to process things differently, have slightly different communication styles, and men and women were generally raised differently; they received different messages from their parents, from society, and from the media. So, it’s not surprising that communicating with men just as you would your female friends and relatives sometimes doesn’t turn out as well as you want.
Here are two pieces of information from “Men are Like Dogs” that gave me new insights:
The first one is that women are often a bit up and down with their emotions, so for them, getting upset and then getting over it would be like jumping off a dock and climbing back up fairly quickly.
For a man, it’s like being in the middle of an ocean and having to swim for miles to land. In other words, it takes much longer for a man to switch emotional gears.
The second piece that stood out was, as women we are always interrupting one another. We jump in and finish each other’s sentences. Perhaps it’s our collaborative nature.
But, men would like us to know that even though we are usually right, we should wait until they have finished speaking before interrupting. They like feeling that they have been heard.
So ladies, we need to embrace these Dogs and tweak our communications for maximum efficiency. Small changes, such as giving men time to process their feelings and not interrupting, are easy to do, and will significantly improve your communication. Give yourself a challenge and try these two tips this week, and see what happens!